Imagine you are asked to look at a sixth-grade class and predict which students will earn the highest income as adults. Which kids would you choose?
The defiant kids who break the rules might be your best bet, according to a 40-year study published in Developmental Psychology.
Rule Breakers Earn the Most Money
In 1968, researchers began studying 12-year-old students who were in the sixth grade. They examined the influence of their intelligence, characteristics, behaviors and their parents' socioeconomic status.
Then, 40 years later, they followed up with those students. Not surprisingly, the students who were described by teachers as "studious" were more likely to have prestigious jobs. But, the studious kids didn't make the most money in adulthood.
The highest income earners were the "naughty kids." The kids who broke the rules and defied parental authority became the highest income earners as adults.
Why Rule Breakers Earn More
The authors speculate one reason that the 12-year-old rule breakers may have turned into higher-income earning adults was because they weren't afraid to negotiate higher salaries or raises.
The authors suggest another possible reason rule breakers earn more money is because they value competition. Rather than worry about getting along with others, they may be more interested in advancing their own interests.
The authors couldn't rule out the fact that some of the high-income earners could have been earning a living unethically. But the study didn't find any evidence that participants were engaging in this type of behavior.
Other Studies Support These Findings
Other studies support the notion that the non-conformists may have clear advantages in life. A 2012 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that agreeable people earn less money than other people.
Another study, The Illinois Valedictorian Project, found that Valedictorians were less likely to become millionaires than their peers. The high school valedictorians did well in college and went on to have prestigious careers, but they weren't likely to be the highest earning people in their class.
In his book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree, Eric Barker cites the study and says, "School rewards people who follow the rules, not people who shake things up."
It's the kids who are willing to break the rules who go on to become entrepreneurs, innovators, and millionaires.
Channel Your Child's Defiance Into Something Positive
If you're raising a defiant child, you might find some solace in knowing your child's rule violations could be an asset. Of course, you'll want to channel her energy into something positive to ensure she becomes a trailblazer who doesn't worry about pleasing everyone, as opposed to a criminal who disregards authority.
So rather than squash her spirit, help her turn her willingness to go against the grain into an advantage. Teach her empathy so she is kind and caring and give her consequences when she goes too far.
But don't discourage her from breaking a rule or two when she's not actually hurting anyone. She could grow to become a mentally strong person who isn't afraid to break the rules when doing so could make the world a better place.