If you want to make small changes in your life, a few adjustments here and there should do it. But if you feel that your life is so out of balance and out of control and that you could just scream, little nudges probably won't work. If you want to make big changes in your life, you will need to start doing things very differently and it might just require taking some massive action.

Remember that you don't just get out of bed one day to find that your life is chaotic, overwhelming and it feels like your world is collapsing. These problems have generally built up over time. Many factors in your life will have played a part. In particular, the people around you have a huge impact on your state of mind and emotional well being. The big question is "Have you got the right people in your life?".

How do you know if you have the wrong kind of people in your life? If they have been around for years they will feel really comfortable, like a well-worn pair of jeans, even if deep down you know that you don't look as good in them as you did ten years ago.   

The best way to find out if you have the right people in your life is to make the effort to go out and meet others and do a comparison. Break out of the old, safe routines and patterns that have got you to this difficult point and start to expand your horizons. You have to get out of your comfort zone and meet new people.

Of course, when you feel like your life is out of control the last thing you will want to do is spend time expanding your circle of friends, associates and business contacts. You will find a million reasons not to break out of your comfort zone, but now is the time to make the effort to broaden your horizons and get some interesting new perspectives that generally only comes with meeting new people.

When I'm working with business owners, I always suggest that they spend time mixing in new circles. I want them to be challenged, to have fresh energy in their life, to be able to benchmark themselves and their businesses to show that it's not all doom and gloom.

There really are only positive upsides, financially, and in your health and happiness, to mixing with a new circle of people, even if it simply makes you realize that the people around you are actually great and don't need to be replaced.

So, depending on what aspect of your life you want to improve, muscle up, make the effort to get out, meet new people and you will be astonished by the effect a fresh perspective will have on your life.