Take a look at your life. How are the results you're getting?

Do you know what you actually want?

How dispersed and "confused" is your focus?

Is all of your energy being challenged a single direction, or are you trying to do too many things?

These 10 quotes will help you get clear on what you want and how to get it:

"Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything." -- Napoleon Hill

In order to truly succeed at something, you have to really want it. You need to want it more and more every day. 

According to the "Expectancy Theory of Motivation," three things must occur for a person to be deeply and fully motivated toward their goals. Those three things are:

  1. You must believe the reward (the 'WHY') of a particular goal is important, meaningful, and compelling.
  2. You must believe that you know how (clear strategies/plans/people) to achieve your goal.
  3. You must believe that you can execute the plans, strategies, and pivoting involved in achieving the goal.

These are the big three which you must have to succeed at any level. Interestingly, long before Expectancy Theory existed, the billionaire H.L. Hunt said:

"There are only three requirements for success. First, decide exactly what it is you want in life. Second, determine the price that you are going to have to pay to get the things you want. And third, and this is most important, resolve to pay that price."

You increase that desire by engaging in activities and behaviors that clearly and directly relate to what you want. 

Your behavior shapes your identity. When you begin acting toward your desire, you begin to become your desire.

"Those who restrain desire do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained." -- William Blake

If you don't achieve your goals, it is because you didn't fuel your desire to achieve that goal every day. Your brain and belief system are incredibly malleable and fluid. 

With proper behavior, emotion, and environmental signaling, you can reshape your brain to match your goals. Thus, quite literally, you will be mentally and physically what your desires are.

"Your eyes can only see and your ears can only hear what your brain is looking for." -- Dan Sullivan

Your brain is always looking for something. Psychologists call this selective attention

Here's a fascinating question: what are you currently paying attention to? What you pay attention to reflects what you think about and desire. 

Your job is to train your attention. 

You do this by setting specific and intentional goals and then fueling the desire of those goals through congruent and courageous action, routinized visualization, and environment design, including key relationships.

"A strong passion for any object will ensure success, for the desire of the end will point out the means." -- William Hazlitt

Your desires and goals are what determine your process. When you set a huge goal, ask yourself this question: "What would need to occur in order for this to be true?" 

For example, if you want to make one million dollars, or 10 million dollars, in the next 12 months, what would need to occur in order for this to be true?

The goal determines the process.

"Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction." -- Melody Beattie

Your goals and desires give your life direction. It also shapes who you become.

When you decide on a goal and deepen your desire to achieve that goal, it will change who you are at both the conscious and subconscious levels. Your subconscious is what truly determines who you become. 

Thus, you need to fuel your desire and beliefs every single day. You do this through committed and bold action, and by shaping your environment to match your goals.

"Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future." -- Zig Ziglar

When you decide you really want something, you must begin eliminating stuff from your life that conflicts with that goal. You need to create an environment that matches your goal. Over time, you become the product of your environment. This includes the people you surround yourself with, places you go, and media you consume.

"Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value." -- Jim Rohn

If you don't have urgency in your life, then your desire won't have power. You need to continually create urgency for the desires you have. Hence, the most successful people in the world have schedules and deadlines, etc. even though they have plenty of money. 

"If you care enough for a result, you will most certainly attain it." -- William James

The more intense your desire becomes, the more willing you become to do whatever it takes. 

When you become clear on the outcomes you want, you reverse engineer how to get those results. You continuously fail and pivot and learn until you get what you want. 

You don't lower your goals or expectations.

You don't avoid goals because failure is too painful to deal with.

You set a path and continue forward until you succeed.

"There are two types of people: those who get results and those who have reasons for not getting results." -- Dan Sullivan

If you're not getting the results you want, then you continually learn and shift and upgrade your processes. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. 

So, look at your results.

Are they what you want?

Do they reflect the goals you're striving for?

Are you moving forward at the rate you could be? 

If not, then change it up.

"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." -- Warren Buffet

The more you desire specific things, the more you have to say "no" to nearly everything else. True decisions mean you cut off all alternative options.

Decision is the opposite of willpower because willpower means you never actually decided and you never shaped an environment to facilitate that choice. 

Willpower means you never trained your desires and you never reshaped your brain and identity to match those desires. It becomes much easier to say "no" when you've made a real decision.

Conclusion

Willpower doesn't because willpower means your spinning your wheels and making little no progress. It's a huge waste of energy and a huge lack of focus. 

Instead, you need to make decisions.

Powerful decisions; ones based on who you truly want to be. Decisions based on your sincerest definition of success. 

If you don't know what that it, then it's time to start having some more experiences and get some more knowledge. 

With experience and time reflecting, you can decide what you want. 

You can then fuel that desire and ultimately, make it inevitable. 

Published on: May 18, 2019
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