Right now, I'm in Dallas Texas.
I'm with one of my mentors, Draye Redfern.
Every 2 to 3 months, I come to Draye's house and undergo a few days of brilliance.
Get a Teacher
"When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready, the teacher will disappear." -- Lao Tzu
When you move beyond dabbling to full commitment, you'll want to learn quickly. So, you'll need a teacher. Someone who can help you take the next few steps.
This teacher can be in the form of a book or an online course. Or, it can be an actual person. The benefit of a real person is getting immediate and relevant feedback and direct answers to your questions.
Recently, I hired someone to help me learn software for my online business. I wanted an immersion-type experience. My master-teacher, Darye Redfern, lives half-way across the country.
But as will be shown, Draye and his wife, Andrea, do everything at an amazingly high level.
They host me for a few days every time I come to learn from Draye.
They let me stay in a beautiful room at their house.
It's like being with family.
During a few days with Draye, I learned more than I could've learned in six months on my own. Draye is brilliant at quickly assessing where I am, and what I need.
Specifically, we have been master-minding the development of a highly experimental and large scale online course launch.
Only Engage In Transformational Relationships(Because all transactional ones will end soon anyways)
"I take pleasure in my transformations. I look quiet and consistent, but few know how many women there are in me."-- Anaïs Nin
When two givers come together, transformation can occur -- where the new WHOLE becomes infinitely more than the sum of its parts.
When a giver attempts to work with a taker, that relationship will only last until the taker has what they want. Or, until the giver realizes what is truly happening.
According to research from Wharton professor, Adam Grant, givers are both the least and most successful types of people. Some people give to a fault. They give everything they've got and, most importantly, they give to the WRONG TYPES OF PEOPLE.
When you give to takers, the pie gets smaller and eventually becomes exhausted.
When you give to givers, the pie continually gets bigger and bigger.
Thus, being a giver isn't enough. You need to give to the right people if you want your success and relationships to last. Who you surround yourself with, and who you work with, really matters.
I've engaged in many business relationships over the past few years -- some with givers and some with takers.
Takers are very hard to spot in the beginning, because they are very manipulative and cunning.
Strategic Coach founder, Dan Sullivan, says he can spot a taker within 10 minutes of being with them. Takers are motivated by greed, not growth. You have to be really intuitive to spot the subtle cues.
I've decided that, to the extent I can, I'm no longer going to engage in long-term relationships with takers. I'm done with transactional relationships. I prefer relationships that lead to growth and transformation.
You'll know someone is a giver when they genuinely help you without asking for anything in return. And they are truly, genuinely, happy for the success they help you have.
That's how Draye has been ever since I met him.
Without being paid a dime, he's helped me learn how to make over $12,000/month passive income from my blog.
As a true giver, he gives without expectation of return.
He also gives extremely abundantly before ever asking for help from me, or before asking for collaborative opportunities.
Most people won't do this.
Because it could be perceived as a short-term loss.
You put in a bunch of time without any promise or reward.
But that's where givers know something that takers don't.
You may "lose" in the short-term, as a giver. But that's not how you see it. Because giving is your way of life.
Also, it is in giving that you open the doors to truly enormous opportunities for success that will never come to takers.
Work With People Who Are Craftsman, Not Salesman (But who also know how to market)
"Quality is not an act, it is a habit."-- Aristotle
"Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected."-- Steve Jobs
Similar to the points above, the quality of life you have (and the quality of the work you do) is based on who you spend your life with.
I've seen through multiple collaborations that most people have LOW STANDARDS for themselves and their work.
They procrastinate, then scramble to get things done last minute resulting in a lack of quality in the final product.
They're takers -- meaning they try to do AS LITTLE as possible rather than trying to do AS MUCH as possible.
How a person does anything is how they do everything. If they lack details in their work, they lack important details in the design of the other areas of their lives.
More recently, I've decided to work with people who are true craftsman and craftswomen. Yes, the process may be a little bit slower. But the final outcome is 10X or 100X better.
Things are less rushed.
Quality of life is better.
Quality of planning is more thorough.
Expectations of results are much higher.
Learning is much deeper.
There is less stress and feeling like an imposter.
When I say quality of life, I mean that in the literal sense. Working with people who expect a lot of themselves in their work, but also in the foods they eat, how they spend their time, who they spend their time with, the quality of products they buy, etc.
Far more attention to detail.
Far more passion for living.
For more GIVING to life and experiencing moments.
This is how Draye and his wife, Andrea, live their lives.
They are focused on quality and AMAZING work.
It's mind blowing.
We are here, filming videos, creating sales funnels, and the work is SO HIGH CLASS.
But not only that, Draye and Andrea's entire approach to life is high class. From the furniture in their house, to the art on their walls, to the meals Andrea makes us, to the protein shakes Draye makes me.
It's a way of life.
There are lots of people who are strictly SALESMAN, out there. These people are generally takers. They're really good at talking, but their life is a mess.
You want to work with people who are craftsman and professionals. Yet, these artists are also scientists and marketers. Their first priority is in doing brilliant work, but they aren't starving artists. They study the business-side as well, and also the strategy and marketing.
If you want to learn a lot.
Surround yourself with givers, like Draye.
Only work with craftsmen, who love their work and focus on quality. These are people who hold you to a higher standard than you hold yourself.
Put yourself in a 2-3 day deep dive where you get more work done than you can do on your own in 6 months.
Launch bigger products.
Take bigger risks.