How many years have you started out with the best intentions only to find that less than 60 days into the New Year you've already broken your New Year's resolutions? Moreover, rather than focusing on what's working, you tend to be really hard on yourself and end up throwing out any small bit of progress with the overwhelming sensation that you're not likely to reach your goal. Sound familiar? Here's how to break this pattern and come up with lasting change you will stick with--not just this year, but every year thereafter.

First of all, here's what NOT to do:

Don't should all over yourself
Don't set vague or highly unrealistic goals.
Don't wait until the end of the year to measure your progress

For Lasting Change, Do This Instead:

Write out the story of your legendary year as if it were a move script
Ask yourself, "Why Do I Really Want This?"
Get a coach or at the very least, and accountability partner.

It's time to focus on the outcome you want to see this year. Start by writing your legendary story as if it were a movie script. Then spend some time thinking why you really want this new life. What will life be like when you accomplish these goals and changes? And last, but not least, who (besides yourself) will hold you accountable to the outcomes you really want to achieve?

If you're serious about the changes you want to make in your life, take this approach. Not only will it work, but you'll find you never want to go back to the days of annual measurement of highly unrealistic goals that you "should" do, but know deep down that you never will. Achievers envision entirely new possibilities, get deep with the reasons this new reality is a MUST for them, and find someone they trust to hold themselves accountable. I'd wish you luck, but you don't need luck when you do these three things instead. After all, it's grit (not grind) that makes the difference and determines your success.

Published on: Dec 27, 2015
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