Sometimes we need to take stock of where we are at in life. Sometimes we have to ask why we're not where we want to be. Why we're not where we should be.

For me, I've found when I'm not where I should, or want to be, it's usually because I'm holding myself back by telling myself one or more of these lies.

Lie #1: I'm too important.

When we think of ourselves as important - or rather, self-important - we lose touch with reality. We never feel compelled to get out of our comfort zone. We don't see things as other people see them. We can't relate.

Feeling important makes doing the hard stuff, beneath you. It makes the people who report to you, below you. It makes setbacks and failures beyond you, and thus you never try.

Instead of being important, focus on doing something important.

Lie #2: I can't.

Everyone worries that they can't.

The reality is, until it's been done for the first time, no one can. Or at least, no one has. Not yet, anyway.

But someone will do it. Why not you? Forget about why you can't, and just try.

Lie #3: It won't work.

Maybe it will work, maybe it won't. But how will you know if you don't at least try?

Because the future is not set, you have a fifty-fifty chance in everything you do. Your future is what you make of it.

One thing's for certain: If you don't try, it definitely won't work.

Lie #4: I'm not...

Fill in the blank here.

I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not talented enough. I'm not connected enough.

Listen: With enough effort, you can be whatever it is that you need to be. You have the ability to set the direction of your own life.

You have no limitations of what you are, other than what you tell yourself you're not.

Lie #5: Because.

Because you don't want to? Because it's too hard? Because you've given up?

Because is being lazy. Because is throwing in the towel before trying every possible angle and approach. Because is nothing more than a scapegoat.

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It's easy to get caught up in our own heads. It's easy to look around for reasons why we can't get where we want to be. Just realize that the biggest reasons are often the lies that we tell ourselves.

Published on: May 19, 2017
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