I have been following Tony Robbins for many years now and always found his talks and anecdotes inspirational and actionable.
One of the biggest things I learned early on is that it's not just about making more money, but also about being in tune with your vision while making a profit doing something you truly love and enjoy.
Lewis Howes, successful entrepreneur and author of the New York Times bestseller The School of Greatness: A Real-World Guide to Living Bigger, Loving Deeper, and Leaving a Legacy, sat down with Tony Robbins to discuss mastering money, relationships, love, and much more.
Here are 10 eye-opening insights from Tony Robbins that will change your outlook on success.
1. Giving is the beginning of impact.
You have to start beyond scarcity. Tony mentions that when you start giving away something from the start, it will grow upon you whether or not you have money.
He tells an impactful story of his saying he would pay for college education without knowing how he would be able to.
2. The secret to living is giving.
No matter how much money they have, giving it away is what gives many successful entrepreneurs joy. Tony mentions a story of frustration and where he pulls over to the side of the road and writes, "the secret to living is giving" on his notebook.
3. Your closest family members, no matter how successful, can be highly influential.
Tony talks about his mother, who was a drug addict and made him the psychologist he is today. He talks about how he was constantly faced with the challenge of looking after his younger siblings.
4. Hunger is the precursor to success.
Being intelligent is extremely important, but being hungry allows you to acquire the intelligence that someone had been born in.
5. Mentors are the gateway to experiences.
According to Tony, trial and error allows you to take lessons learned from people with years of experience and be sure that you won't repeat their mistakes. That's why Tony loves books. Readers can consume 10 years of someone's life in just a few hours, and prevent the hundreds of mistakes that they may have made otherwise.
6. Add more value to others.
It may seem counterintuitive, but by giving more value to others in multiple forms, you are in turn taking that value and developing economics behind it for scale. If you are delivering $1 million of value, why would someone worry about paying you $200,000 for it?
7. Challenge makes success worthwhile.
When we are building a startup, or trying to chase our dreams, we are continually tossed about and impacted by a multitude of different opportunities and obstacles. The things we work the hardest for are what we value the most. There is no such thing as effortless success.
8. Differences in relationships are blessings, not curses.
When we are with the person we love, we are immediately transformed into a better, more vibrant person. However, certain reactions from our significant other may shock us. Tony describes an instance when he received a $250,000 bonus, and his wife didn't think anything of it. Being grateful for someone who doesn't operate in the same way as you is incredibly important for building a successful career.
9. Intent trumps all.
Many times when someone disagrees with us, we feel upset and discouraged. But going back to intent can take an argument and turn it into a blessing. Tony says that you can either be right or in love. You choose which one.
10. Money doesn't change people; it only accentuates the truth.
There are many cases of entrepreneurs who have gone from being dirt poor to being super successful. However, according to Tony, if you start out angry and upset, you might be even angrier when you have more money. If you have a big heart, you will probably opt for giving more when you are wealthier.