Absurdly Driven looks at the world of business with a skeptical eye and a firmly rooted tongue in cheek. 

 

Love conquers all.

Indeed, self-help books, motivational gurus, HR experts -- hell, even Steve Jobs -- want you to believe that love will make you rich and happy.

But then you look at your own life and realize that love has been at the heart of wasted time, wasted money and bucketfuls of tears.

Why, then, do you believe that the best way to pursue a career is to do something you're truly passionate about?

Why do you get duped into believing that spending 10 hours a day doing something you love will automatically bring you gold, frankincense and a myrrhiad of blissful days?

This question is addressed and assaulted by Mike Rowe, the star of Dirty Jobs and Somebody's Gotta Do It, as well as the brilliant narrator of Deadliest Catch.

 

In a video for the no-doubt deeply passionate Prager University, -- a video that should make you question your very self -- Rowe muses: "How can Lady Gaga possibly know where your passion will lead you?"

Look at American Idol, he says.

The contestants go there because they're following their dreams. Their performances, however, are the sweetest nightmare.

Your passion has absolutely nothing to do with your actual ability to do something.

All this love stuff gets in the way.

It's possible to actually work up a passion for the thing you actually do. But if you're still dreaming of something else -- something you're uniquely untalented for -- that will be unlikely.

"Your happiness with your work," he says, "has very little to do with the work itself."

He tells of a man who made millions out of septic cleaning.

His secret? "I looked around to see where everyone else was headed, and then I went the opposite way."

The next step for this millionaire was to see that he was good at this work. Then he began to prosper.

Suddenly, he began to realize he was actually "passionate about other people's crap."

Follow opportunity, not passion and you're more likely to still be passionate about what you do in a few years' time.

The thing about failing at something you're passionate about is that you might even lose your passion for it.

And then what?

Love hurts, remember?

There's something else that love should teach you about your career.

As Rowe says: "Staying the course only makes sense if you're heading in a sensible direction."

How many times has love headed in a sensible direction for you?

The thing about going into something you're passionate about is that it could change.

Not your passion necessarily, but the object of your passion.

Yes, just like all those exes you adored so very much.

You look up after 5 or 10 years, stare at a failed relationship and say to yourself: "What the hell have I done?"

And that is the biggest passion-killer of all.