Do you ever wish your life was different--well, not just different, but better?
Maybe you've imagined what life would be like with a better job, a bigger house, improved health, or whatever "better" it is you crave. But you just keep telling yourself that those things are simply out of reach:
- "I hate my job. But I can't get a better one because I don't have the right experience."
- "I really don't like where I live. But I'll never be able to afford to live anywhere else, so I should just get used to it."
- "I want to get in shape. But I can't, because I don't have enough time to exercise."
If they do, then there's one person who can help you overcome these types of thoughts and finally get that better life.
Who is it?
I'll give you a hint: It's someone you see every day.
Beliefs = Thoughts = Actions
Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right."
If you aren't living the life you want, it's likely because you believe that "better" isn't possible for you.
Then this belief turns into thoughts like "I can't ... " or "I'll never be able to ... " or even something as simple as "That will never work."
These thoughts then become your actions (or inactions), which means that you've now limited yourself, solely because of the fact that you have inhibiting beliefs.
This is actually great news, because if you want a better life, all you have to do is look in the mirror and work on changing the beliefs of the person staring back at you.
How? Here are five things to help you.
1. Be Solution-Oriented
Instead of thinking about what you think you can't do, start thinking about what you can.
Whenever you find yourself face-to-face with some area of your life that you are struggling to make better, ask yourself: "What can I do right now in order to see improvements?"
If it's a new job you want, what about seeking additional training or experience so you're more qualified? If you dream of owning your own company, why not check out what steps you'd have to go through in your area or region?
Instead of just complaining that things in your life are broken, fix them. Find solutions to them so they don't stop you from living the life you want to live.
2. Focus on Quality
"Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest." --Mark Twain
It's pretty easy to do the right things when people are watching you, holding you accountable for your actions. But are you still doing the right thing when no one else is around?
If not, then it's possible that life isn't better for you because you're not as focused on quality as you should be.
Having this level of quality or integrity means taking positive action even when no one else is around to see it.
For instance, it's making yourself a salad for lunch, instead of grabbing a burger and fries, because you want to be healthier. It might also mean going into the office before everyone else to complete a project on time, even though no one is there to pat you on the back for your additional effort.
3. Keep Your Eyes on What You Want
"Obstacles are things a person sees when he takes his eyes off his goal." -- E. Joseph Cossman
When you spend more time looking at your obstacles than your goal, you're stopping yourself dead in your tracks, because obstacles have a way of becoming bigger, eventually stopping you from ever having better.
Instead of paying attention to your hurdles, start looking toward the finish line. Imagine that you're running a marathon, and keep your eyes on the ribbon in front of you.
This will help keep you motivated to continue moving forward, no matter what is placed in your way, not stopping until you get right where it is you want to be.
4. Remember, Friction Is Normal ...
"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it." --Henry Ford
It's easy to get discouraged when you feel a little friction in your life, a little resistance, like when you didn't get that promotion that you wanted or that loan for your new business fell through.
However, this feeling is completely normal. In fact, it's more the rule than the exception.
This means that if you are facing some type of resistance on your way to getting a better life, then you're probably on the right path.
Keep at it and you will prevail!
5. ... And So Is Failure
"Failures, repeated failures, are finger posts on the road to achievement. One fails forward toward success." --C.S. Lewis
It's fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.
Not only will you likely face obstacles in your life, but you'll also face some failures.
I know I did when I started my first business venture, ultimately finding myself without a job or a plan when it didn't work out.
While some people let failure prevent them from reaching their full potential, the other option is to use it to make you stronger.
Learn from it and apply its lessons going forward. You'll probably find that you are better because of it.
And your life will be better when you do ...