A couple of years ago I was sitting on a plane in a middle seat among a group of guys traveling to Alaska on a big fishing trip. As part of making airplane small talk, one of them asked what I do for fun.
I had nothing.
I thought about it for a couple seconds. At that point I was in school full-time, earning my second bachelor's degree, and working. My garden was overgrown with weeds. My house was a mess. Fun?
"Uh, I run," was what I came up with. This was a stretch considering my running is actually jogging, and technically I walk half the time. And while I'm doing it, "fun" isn't what it feels like.
I resolved to make some changes so next time I had a real and good answer.
I'm not alone.
Author and behavioral investigator Vanessa Van Edwards penned a fantastic piece giving tips on how to be more interesting because people were landing on her website by searching the internet for the phrase "how to be interesting."
In it, she has a stick figure cartoon exactly depicting my guy-on-the-plane scenario.
If you want to be interesting, try harder.
Van Edwards's advice is simple yet challenging. In essence, she says boring people are lazy people. They habitually watch TV after work and hang out on Facebook for hours a day. They suck at conversation because they talk about the weather and don't ask good questions. And they consume food, drink, media, and information from default or processed sources. How can you be living differently from the lowest common denominator?
Your tribe defines your vibe.
Who is the most interesting person you know? Funniest? Most well-read? Most well-traveled? Strangest? These are the people you want to hang out with, Van Edwards says.
Fan the flames of your curiosity.
It will help you learn what's interesting about the people around you and connect with them. It's magnetic because people are drawn to those who want to hear their stories. Think about the last time someone took an interest in your dreams and desires. How did it make you feel?