While no one is perfect, everybody knows someone who--at least outwardly--always says the right thing, never panics, accomplishes more than most others, and is sought after for advice, friendships and new opportunities. If you want this to be you, here's what you need to know and believe.
1. If you want to be confident, you need to take action
Your personal narrative -- what you tell yourself about yourself -- is based upon your small, medium and large successes and failures in life. But the thing is, nothing positive was ever achieved by anyone without action. Benjamin Hardy suggests starting your path toward achievement by removing things and obligations from your life which don't align with the future you want. Then, you need to be intentional with your choices. Does spending time on Facebook lead to anything good? What kind of action will point your trajectory in the right direction? "Confidence without action doesn't exist," he writes.
2. A cluttered space reflects badly on you
The more items around you, the more your brain needs to process. Think about the desks, homes and cars you've seen where most of the surfaces are covered with something. Clutter is the antithesis of productivity and does not result in feelings of peace and freedom.
3. Practicing moderation in all things shows that you're in control
You'll never see people who have their act together drunk, stoned or addicted to anything. They want to be in control of their faculties and free from the bondage of being dependent on alcohol, drugs, sugar or food.
4. Being late is never OK
Do you have your act together if you can't find your keys? And regardless of who you're meeting, showing up after the agreed-upon time means you don't know how to manage your day. This goes for picking up your kids, too. Certainly, being on-time is a behavior you want to be modeling.
5. Whatever you say in private will inevitably get shared with other people
It's because of what Brianna Wiest calls the "one person phenomenon." Whatever secret you tell to someone, if it's juicy enough that person will tell their partner, lover or best friend. "Then that person will [tell] their one person," she writes. "Ultimately, what you tell one person is what you tell everyone at the end of the day -- so don't say anything in private you do not want repeated in public."