We all share common challenges when it comes to the tough road of entrepreneurship, but we also give common comforts to ourselves to push into another day. In short, we lie to ourselves.
The truth is that you don't know if the rockstar client will come through, a successful fundraise will happen or even if a larger competitor will snuff you out. There has to be a suspension of disbelief--otherwise, you wouldn't attempt to run your own business in the first place. Passion sometimes needs a little help trumping common sense.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with having faith in the future, but it is crucial that we recognize when we're placating ourselves for self-management. Here are the biggest comforts I say to myself. Perhaps you can relate:
I'll get work done on the plane/vacation/break
There is always more work to do: Another email to send, another pitch to perfect and another glitch to correct. As I recently wrote, a major challenge is allowing ourselves to get away. The second part of the challenge? Letting others allow us to get away.
We assume we'll get work done on the flight in or during our travels, so we start pushing work into that so-called free time and start making promises that we may not be able to keep. It usually has one of two outcomes: You actually begin to relax after you realize how exhausted you are, but carry the guilt of making promises you won't keep, or you stress yourself out juggling the demands of travel and the needs of work, not really resting and, likely, not doing your best work because you are tired. Sometimes when you try to do two things, you actual fail at both.
I'll stay up all night/skip today's meals because that's how you crush it
Entrepreneurs will have you believe that skipping that night of sleep or "crushing it" all day without eating is the key to success--there is even a startup or two dedicated to the idea. Sacrifices need to be made (I definitely walk the walk on that one), but there is no real correlation between depriving your body of needs and creating the next unicorn startup. In fact, you are more likely to burnout. Pushing yourself beyond your limits should be viewed as a contextually necessary evil, not as a default.
Consider this: If you do successfully reach that fundraising/monetization/users goal, then you'll have another goal after that and a business that will demand even more from you. I know many an entrepreneur that flamed out before reaching even the first milestone, defeating the whole purpose of moving forward. We often work harder than we should because we want to feel like we're crushing it--and that feel is more important than the impact. There is a difference between killing it and killing yourself.
I'll work with this PITA client one last time
Stop lying to yourself. Money, sympathy or even status quo can compel us to repeat a client who is a pain in the ass (PITA). When we get another opportunity to work with the client, we tend to forget about the issues that stressed us out in the first place--like parents deciding to have another kid. It's not until you're knee-deep in the same situation that you say, "Ah, that's why I swore I'd never work with them again."
Assume that you'll get another, better client (or clients) to replace them. Our fear is often driven by the feast or famine cycle: Keep every client you have, as you don't know when you'll get another one! In reality, we can't actually get new, quality clients if we're spending all our time inefficiently catering to our ill-fitting ones.
I've done all the above... and then some. How do you bend the truth to yourself to get through your business day?