Motivational speaker Mel Robbins launches her new daytime talk show today. Before today, she had the best-selling Audible audiobook of all time with The 5 Second Rule. And before that, by her own admission, she was a failing, underemployed lawyer teetering on bankruptcy. Now, she is arguably the most booked female speaker right behind Brene Brown.
How did things change in just a few years? It was likely because of the things that happened before her ascension.
Here's the killer quote, from her conversation on Backstage Capital Founder Arlan Hamilton's Your First Million podcast:
I have tremendous faith that whatever it is that I'm doing right now has some skill, person or lesson in it that I need in order to do the next thing.
Being passionate and confident isn't enough to persevere
Robbins' philosophy matters because passion alone will not get you through rough patches. Confidence is equally weak in this regard. What will keep you going is maximizing the most out of the situation you are in.
Wishing for bad times to be over isn't just futile, but can actually close you off from any potential upside of the moment. As I said in a recent column, we will purposefully narrow our options to make things fit our worldview. If you believe that time spent in your life right now is useless, then you are virtually guaranteeing that it will be.
Instead, it's wiser to embrace where you are, how you are and what you are doing. Once you accept those details, then you can make the best of the situation and pivot your way towards a new one.
Everything doesn't happen for a reason
One thing I love about this philosophy is that it doesn't assume that what happened in the past, what is happening now or what will happen in the future is inherently good. I've had some particularly rough moments this year. You may have as well. You won't catch me on the "everything happens for a reason" bandwagon anytime soon.
Instead of everything happening for a reason, though, you should consider the reverse: You can find meaning in everything that happens.
I wrote about it in my latest book, Bring Your Worth:
The universe... does not create struggle to punish you, but to reconfirm what you actually believe. The confidence to know what you believe isn't complete until you are given ample opportunity to disregard it.
Your challenges yesterday, today and tomorrow are just opportunities for you to reconfirm who you are - and who you are not. Without difficult circumstances, I would have never became an entrepreneur, just as much as unexpected twists and turns made Robbins into the media mogul she is today. However, it isn't the adversity, but the meaning and knowledge taken from the adversity that creates any success we bring to the future.