Wait, wouldn't following your gut make you feel more in control of your life? Sometimes it's true that listening to your instincts can be invaluable, but that intuition can sometimes simply be our biases and fears talking. Valuing them too highly can keep you from making more considered, and ultimately better, decisions.
Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman has written and spoken extensively on this subject, but here are a few suggestions to get you started. Consciously choose to leverage your intuition by taking a break from a difficult problem in order to let subconscious processes gnaw away at them. Also, learn to tell areas of expertise in which your intuition is likely to be reliable, compared to instincts driven by stereotypes and raw emotion.