As a coach, the start of the new year is always a great time because it's the time that clients are full of optimism. Ready to set bold new goals, or create inspiring visions for their futures. And while I love to help them set these bold new goals, it's worth noting that science says that 92% of people will fail to achieve their goals, which is staggering.
The majority of people fail for the same reasons, and the repeat these same mistakes year after year. Here are 7 things that you need to give up if you want to make this year different and be part of the 8% of people who achieve their goals.
There might be reasons why you are not doing as well as you should, be there are definitely no excuses. When we start to make excuses then we are giving ourselves outs, options to quit, or are telling ourselves stories that make failure seems acceptable. Do not accept any excuses.
"If you really want to do it, you do it. There are no excuses." - Bruce Nauman
Waiting For Someone Else To Help
If you wait for someone to come and help you achieve your goals, then you have already decided to quit. No one is going to have as much passion or desire to achieve your goals than you do. Someone might become inspired and help you over the finishing line, but it's at the start that you need to have the self-motivation to get up and get the ball rolling.
"Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other." - Abraham Lincoln
Most people are not afraid of hard work, they are afraid of failure, and self-doubt can feed right into that fear, which can then cause us to quit. The reality is that your capable of significantly more than you think you are, and you need to work on building your self-confidence, by looking for role models that you know you can emulate and having plans that you believe in. One of the best ways to banish doubt is to create a Recognition Board. This is a tool that you create where you record your previous success or any achievement that you're proud. And when you start to have self-doubts go back and look at the recognition board to give you a confidence boost, to help you get back on track.
"Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success." - Joyce Brothers
Thinking There's A Short Cut To Success
Stop looking for the short cut to success, or a silver bullet solution that's going to take all of the hard work out of being successful. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad tiding but it doesn't exist. All success is based hard work and the sooner you accept this, the sooner you can get to work and start making progress towards your goal.
"There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs." - Zig Ziglar.
Things That Are Urgent But Not Important
We live in a world where we are inundated with status updates, phone calls, offers and opportunities, many of which seem urgent and that need to be dealt with right now. But for every minute you focus on things that seem urgent don't help you achieve your goals is potentially a minute wasted. We need to differentiate between being busy and being productive.
"Beware of the barrenness of a busy life" - Socrates
This is probably the biggest obstacle that many of you will have to overcome. I say that because I know it's one of the biggest challenges that both friends, my clients and myself have to overcome. The best way to fight procrastination is to create a plan, and then be self-disciplined about it, do what needs to be done today, don't put it off until tomorrow. I know this sounds a lot easier than it is, but often people plan to do too much, so look to start small, and as you see the progress it will motivate and help to dimish the procrastination.
"Procrastination is opportunity's assassin" - Victor Kiam
Waiting For The Perfect Time To Start
You will never think you're completely ready, or that now is a perfect time to start things. But in reality, you are more ready than you know, and it's better to start sooner rather than later. When you start now you will have the full year to make changes, re-evaluate what you need to do, whereas if you wait, you're just eating the available time which you may need later in the year.
"Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.: - Abraham Lincoln