I don't wish it was easier -- I just wish I could stop making excuses. A year and a half ago, I intentionally set out on a journey to open a gym. Five months in, I hit a roadblock -- I lost an unofficial partner in the business -- and it created a spiraling domino effect on everything else in my life.
Looking back, I wish I didn't allow that to be an obstruction. Here I am, 522 days after establishing my mission statement and still, nothing.
I thought that telling everyone that I was starting a business would make me move faster. I thought that having mentors would inspire me to the moon and beyond. I thought that changing all my passwords to my anticipated open date would help me harness a motivation every time I opened my laptop.
No, no, and no. All of these things should have, but it didn't. The only thing stopping me was myself.
As entrepreneurs, we look to our peers for inspiration and stories on how they did it. These days, those stories don't do much more than remind me that I am sorely behind. Sure, these things take time, but when you drop everything for a dream, every day that passes is another frustrating day when the dream hasn't become reality.
Today, I write from a place that's not a matter-of-fact authority or a been-there-done-that attitude. It's from a place that's deep in the trenches, to let you know that I, too, am struggling to make this happen.
I hope that one day we can look back laugh on the dark ages, but today, you and I both know that it is far from a comedy sketch. So where do we go from here?
Together, we're going to channel these three actionable steps and change the way we think. This is happening. We didn't give it all up to stop here.
1. Write down everything that's stopping you.
Get real. Start with a list and, if it's cathartic to dig deeper, then don't let me stop you.
Tony Robbins likes to call this the story that we've created for ourselves. When we continue to revisit this story, we feel the pain and suffering that comes along with it.
2. Erase the story.
You are not defined by your past. These narratives are building blocks to make the big picture sound more interesting later on.
For now, they are blips in the process -- not a defining factor for you or your business. Again, Robbins says it well here: "Change your strategy; change your story; change your state."
3. Now, write down what you're going to do about it -- and go do it.
Roadblocks are meant to be lifted. Okay, so you don't have enough funding, the perfect dream team, or the right location. Who can you talk to? What options do you have?
Discover plan A-Z if you need to, but don't stop brainstorming until you have several functioning routes to make things better. Now, drop the story and let's go make something cool.