As much as you might hate to admit it, the likelihood of achieving a "work-life balance" is probably similar to finding a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Whether it's work, fitness, friends, family, or sleep, there is always one (or more) that gets cast aside, and Randi Zuckerberg thinks you should accept defeat.
"No matter what phase in our lives we're in, we all have problems prioritizing," Zuckerberg told Inc.com before an event hosted by IVY, a "social university" that hosts talks and other networking sessions for its members. "That's the hardest thing, whether you're a stay-at-home parent, you work for someone else, or you run your own company."
Instead of feeling deflated and discouraged by an inability to achieve an impossibly well-rounded life, the entrepreneur wants us to replace the ideal of a "well-balanced" life with a "well-lopsided" one. That's the message of her new book, Pick Three: You Can Have It All (Just Not Every Day)--a guide for anyone struggling to divide their time.
As the title aptly implies, her strategy is to prioritize: Pick three of the aforementioned priorities daily. Shoot for an overall balance, but be OK if you don't achieve it. Zuckerberg emulates this in her own life by taking five minutes before bed to plan her three priorities, which she admits, often get disrupted by the other, uncontrollable forces in her life.
"I live in the real world where deadlines happen and people get sick, but I think if you can at least make a practice of going through to the next day it's going to be much easier," she said. "The pick three mantra is less about each individual day, and more about how it balances out in the long-run."
Particularly as an entrepreneur, it can be difficult to tap out of the constant work cycle. Zuckerberg found this when she left Facebook--where she created Facebook Live--to work for herself, going on to build her own company: Zuckerberg Media. "At least when you work for someone else, the buck stops with them," she said.
In a world full of long work days and too few respites, a big part of picking three is removing the stress, pressure, and resulting guilt of feeling like you need to squeeze five things into one day--and realizing you can't do any of them well.
"When you take control of your life in that way, you go to bed feeling happy about the things you did accomplish rather than rattling off a mental list of all the things you didn't do," she said.