The other day at dinner my husband paused with his fork mid-air and asked me, "Can you believe it's almost June already?"

The short answer to that question is no. 

As I get older, I'm continually shocked at how fast time flies (my father, the last time I complained about this, cheerfully replied, "You ain't seen nothing yet, kid"), but even by the standards of middle age, the past months have been a blur. I doubt I'm alone in that. 

If coronavirus restrictions and the pandemic generally have done weird things to your perception of time, be reassured that psychology indicates you're not losing your mind. How fast time seems to flow is tied to how many memorable and novel experiences we have, which means that the Groundhog Day-like quality of life under coronavirus restrictions makes the minutes crawl but the days fly.  

Time to recenter yourself

All of which means we've nearly reached June and it's easy to feel like the year has already gotten away from you. It's time to step back, take a breath, and take stock of whether you're on track at all when it comes to your aspirations for 2021. A classic post by writer Alexandra Franzen is a great place to start. 

"It feels like two seconds ago that I was celebrating New Year's Eve. Cake and champagne. Wishes and goals. Then I glanced at my computer, answered a few emails, looked up, and whaaaaat just happened?" Franzen writes before offering readers a list of 10 questions to help you get a handle on the half a year we still have in front of us: 

  1. What were my goals at the beginning of this year?

  2. Are my goals the same--or have things changed?

  3. Is there something I've been doing lately--like a writing project, a business project, or any kind of project or commitment--that's not feeling "right" anymore? Do I need to keep doing it? What would happen if I just stopped?

  4. What's something I'm sick of hearing myself say, over and over? Like, "I really need to start ... " "I really need to stop ... " "Seriously, for real, this week I will ... " 

  5. What's something I definitely want to create, achieve, or experience before the end of this year?

  6. Who are some people I feel jealous of right now--and why? What do they have--or appear to have--that I want? (Simon Sinek recommends this type of reflection too.) 

  7. Who's someone who's been an important part of my life this year--like an amazing friend, mentor, or colleague? Have I said "thank you" to that person recently? (And science is super clear this is a good idea.)

  8. What's something I see out in the world that breaks my heart? What could I do, say, create, or contribute to be "part of the solution"?

  9. Fill in the blank: "This year, one of the best decisions I've made is _______."

  10. And lastly: Fill in the blank: "This year, I feel proud of myself because _______."

You could answer these in your own head, in a journal, or with a friend. The important thing is to gift yourself with a moment of reflection so that when New Year's rolls around again, 2021 might have felt fast but at least it also will have felt satisfying.