Mentally tough people increase their chances of success in life because of their perspective. One of their key traits is fulfillment. On the surface, fulfillment sounds like an easy concept, yet it remains highly elusive to many people.

Fulfillment isn't an elusive item relegated for the select few, it's a state of being that any person can attain.

If you desire to live a more fulfilling life and lower the unnecessary stressors of life, start with these four guiding principles that mentally tough people use.

1. Only be in competition with yourself.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Mentally tough individuals who are living a fulfilling life don't let themselves get caught up in the everyday rat race and comparison to others around them.

They understand that when you compare yourself and your journey to others, you're devaluing your own self-worth. Viewing someone else's life and journey from the outside is only witnessing their highlight reel.

Comparing is dangerous because you're only seeing their curated product, and who knows what their behind-the-scenes looks like? The only metric that is important is your own personal one. Did you at least get 1 percent better from the previous day?

If so, then that's all that matters, don't sweat anything else.

2. Remove all toxic people and environments.

You are who you surround yourself with. Toxic people and environments can become mosquito-like and suck all the life and energy out of you.

You'll notice that people who are more fulfilled than the average operate with a greater level of energy. That's because they intensely guard their personal energy.

You only get one at-bat at this thing called life. Don't let it go to waste on people who don't lift you higher.

3. Commit to a growth mindset.

Your mind is powerful. Your thoughts and beliefs can morph into your worst enemy or greatest asset. Those who are living a more fulfilled life have a growth mindset, where they see the world in abundance and believe there is enough for everyone.

A growth mindset realizes that skill and intelligence can be developed and expanded upon through consistent effort. With a growth mindset, you see yourself as the captain of your personal and professional life trajectory. Only you can stop yourself from achieving the goals that you want.

4. Don't try to control everything.

We often get ourselves into trouble because we try to control the "uncontrollable" (e.g., our external circumstances). Mentally tough and fulfilled individuals understand that the only thing they can control is their response and perspective to specific situations.

Anything else is out of their hand. Embrace relinquishing control and notice how your stress levels go down because you were focusing on things that you couldn't control.

Published on: Sep 25, 2017