I'm sure you've heard the question: "How do I find my passion?"

The answer that follows could be a multitude of things depending on the individual. It's with that reason that many people embark on a quest to discover their passion and only end up more hesitant about what to do with their life.

As with nearly everything else in life, finding your passion isn't black and white. It resides in the grey and has numerous variables attached to it.

Passion is fuel to your work and life. Without any passion, unlocking your highest potential isn't going to happen. And with that in mind, I recently stumbled upon an article over at TED discussing how to uncover your best self.

Social scientists and authors of the book Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment Todd Rose and Ogi Ogas offer four elements to fulfillment. But one of those is through the unconventional habit of finding your micro-motives.

What are micro-motives?

Rose and Ogas define a micro-motive as "a collection of super-specialized things that make your particular heart sing." At the core of your identity, lies a subset of factors that uniquely constructs your makeup and separates you from all other humans.

Looking into factors such as your desires, activities that increase your happiness, and habits that positively propel you are key. Ignoring and misjudging these motives not only slows progress down but often times is the sole reasoning for the dissatisfaction going on in your life.

To ultimately achieve success and happiness, it's essential to know the right vehicles to jump into. Choosing the wrong vehicles may grant you money and professional accolades. But if it's not your desired destination, you'll still feel empty and hollow.

When it comes to learning more about your micro-motives, an easy but uncomfortable way to unravel them is to get judge-y. Be mindful of those gut reactions you get throughout the day or those seemingly little things that cause emotional flare-ups.

These serve as the little clues that help you construct your motives and ultimately your identity. With that said, after learning about micro-motives, I took a little over 30 minutes to work on mine and ended up with a simple exercise.

Create an anti-vision.

In life, there's pleasure and pain. The majority of people (including myself) react to pain much more than pleasure. I've noticed with clients that bringing into light all the associated pain of not changing is much more motivating compared to some pleasurable things that could happen.

When it comes to discovering your passion and seeking fulfillment, I wrote out an anti-vision of myself. This is all about who you don't want to be along with things that agitate and annoy you.

As you go about this, think about the person you're most afraid of becoming. What habits and behaviors do you despise the most? Who do you most despise or gets under your skin? What qualities do they have that most repel you?

Now you can write a more accurate and highly specific description of this person.

Finding your passion is a necessity and can easily be tapped into once you explore your judge-y and darker side (just don't make a permanent residence there).

Published on: Nov 29, 2018
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