There are high performers who seemingly grace through life achieving a varied assortment of feats. On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are people who seemingly can't achieve the very things that they desire.
They're always falling short of their goals. At a specific point in time, I thought I was part of this unlucky crowd who never got what they wanted.
However, as I realized, I didn't have business problems, I had life problems that were manifesting itself through different forms in my everyday life. I had to learn how to get out of my own way so I could have everything I wanted.
When we want something, our first inclination is to search externally for a solution. But this is backward.
I was reminded of this after recently speaking to former pro athlete and Super Bowl XL winner Chukky Okobi. Chukky not only found success in the realm of athletics, but he's also a successful business and entertainment entrepreneur, a member of the screen actors guild, and a certified master NLP practitioner where he works with numerous top performers.
When it comes to breaking into new industries and establishing yourself, the most important step is to "take control of your mind and thoughts" says Okobi.
Getting out of your own your way and ultimately getting what you want starts by practicing these two habits.
1. Stop relying on other people to tell you what to do.
As I was listening to Okobi describe his athletic journey, I noticed a common narrative of overcoming the odds and expectations. He wasn't supposed to be good according to the "experts" of the game, but nevertheless, he ended up getting drafted and moving on to numerous other projects beyond football.
With that in mind, I asked him "What was your secret to making it in pro football along with succeeding after football?" He succinctly replied with "We all get the same amount of votes. Respect and value your own opinion."
How many times have you wanted to do something, but hesitated due to fear of others opinion or potential reactions? At times, I've been shy about publishing articles, sending emails, and making phone calls all because of potential scenarios in my head.
This is why it's essential to not place anyone's opinion of you higher than yourself. To start putting yourself out there, pretend it's election day and realize that we all get one vote. Therefore, peoples opinion isn't worth any more than yours when it comes to doing whatever it is that you want to do.
2. Don't get comfortable in your own reality.
Often times, our biggest hurdle to getting what we want and achieving a breakthrough is comfort and convenience. As humans, we are creatures of habit and our brain likes to keep us safe from all types of risk.
It's easy to get into an everyday routine and operate on autopilot. Our habits and thoughts follow suit which leads to the same actions that we've always done along with the same results showing up.
When discussing a solution for this with Okobi, he described the scene as a "record in our head that needs to be scratched or just thrown away."
You want to scratch the record so it never plays the same again. This same philosophy is applicable to your habits and thoughts. Break up the idle mind by putting a disruption into your typical routine and thought processes.
In business, for example, question habits and industry norms that don't sound right nor feel right to you. Assess your habits and ask "is this a habit that gets me to the end result that I want?"
Getting what you want isn't conceptually complicated nor will it be easy. However, all of that is a mute point without you first establishing your own rules and beliefs.