We know that relationships, nutrition, sleep, and exercise all play a positive effect on our chances for succeeding in business. However, what you may not know or simply be overlooking is the role your daily language plays.
Whether it's a health goal, building a business, or any other goal, success comes down to mastering your mental game just as much as mastering any other external skill set. Words are more powerful than we realize.
As I'm still learning in my journey, you can be the most talented, intelligent, and respected individual within your field, but if you aren't mindful of your daily language, you're going to inevitably sabotage yourself at some point.
Whether you notice it or not, the words and phrases you use can convey feelings of doubt, insecurity, and a lack of true belief in yourself. In essence as I learned, my vocabulary didn't match the ambitious goals I was going after.
I was unknowingly creating conflict within myself. With that said, here are four words to immediately remove from your vocabulary if you want to create more success this year.
Maybe sounds like you're being a nice person. But in actuality, you're telling the other person on the other end that you have no intention of following through on whatever was presented.
When I consult with clients now, I eliminate "maybe" and get a "yes or no" at the end because there is no such thing as maybe. Maybe is used when we're too fearful to say no.
Have you ever actually went on a date with a person that said "maybe"? Have you ever had a fantastic client that gave you the answer "maybe"? Have you ever seen someone change their life with a "maybe" they could do something?
I haven't and most likely you haven't.
Maybe is a weak word. In business along with the pursuit of any other goal, you need to be completely sure of yourself and the decisions you're making on a daily basis. If you're not, others will pick up on your lack of certainty and will have difficulty believing in you along with working for you.
Starting now, commit to eliminating the word maybe from your vocabulary. Also, hold others accountable to this standard as well. It's only "I will or I won't."
Time is too precious to waste on maybes.
"I will try to finish this project by Thursday." "I will try to start eating healthier."
We've all heard these along with other numerous examples of "tries". I've been guilty of blurting them out as well.
This word is weak and is commonly used so we can get off the hook for something. In other words, the word "try" prevents you from having to commit which is actually a core necessity to succeeding in any endeavor.
As the great philosopher Yoda tells us, "Do or do not. There is no try." Remove "try" from the sentence and only include "will" which will leave no wiggle room.
I still catch myself saying this some days. On the surface, there's nothing seemingly wrong with this word. After all, shouldn't we know what we want out of life and business?
Of course, but this word isn't moving the narrative forward nor is it emotionally compelling enough. Lastly, it indicates a lack of in your life.
Instead of saying, "I want to eat healthier" and "I want to earn a million dollars", you can simply say "I am eating healthier" and "I am earning a million dollars."
Not only does switching those words put you in more control of the outcome but it's also an example of active language which brings emotion, certainty, and clarity to the situation.
"I'm going to write a book soon" and "I'm going to start a business soon" were two of my favorite lines. This is procrastination 101 because this instantly primes me to do this activity in the near future which doesn't have a necessary specificity to it (i.e. meaning it will never get done).
This procrastination shows that either I'm too committed to too many things or that this particular thing isn't that important to me.
If this thing you're saying "soon" on is in fact important, then you having to say this word shows that you need to remove things that aren't serving you in this moment nor toward where you want to head in life and business.
Our words have power and it's easy to overlook our vocabulary for more external tactics and strategies. But, transformations in any endeavor start by going inside ourselves which starts with our language because that has the power to influence our demeanor and perspective for empowerment or limitation towards our goals.