"When do I know it's time to leave a job?" 

Without fail whenever I speak to an audience, this question always comes up. Despite the fact that job hopping is on the rise (and thus becoming more accepted), people still strongly resist searching for a new position. And that's fair--job searching is scary. Most change is. 

There's often a fear that what you have is "as good as it gets." People don't believe that they can get something better, or they're afraid that the next gig they land will be downright awful. To put it simply, they're afraid of making a bad decision.

Because of this, many people miss the clear signs that something is very wrong with the job they do have, and they choose to stay in it rather than finding a better fit. But if your job is a dead-end, if it's bringing toxicity into your life, if it's making you unhappy, then it's time to make a change.  

If you're struggling to decide when to stay and when to go, here are four abundantly clear signs that indicate leaving is the best choice. Don't resist it. Focus on making your next job search less of a burden, and learn from your past experiences so you don't repeat them. 

Signs It's Time to Leave Your Job:

  1. You can't change the things that are making you unhappy at work--such as your manager, the culture, or the projects you're working on. 

  2. You start taking note of the number of days you come home on the brink of burnout, and after a few months of tracking it's consistently more than the number of days you feel energized and excited. 

  3. You are being manipulated to believe that you won't find a better job anywhere else.

  4. When you communicate your unhappiness, you are met with offers of more money but nothing else.

If you find yourself saying yes to most or all of the above four signs, then start building your support for a job search that will help you find work you're excited to go to each morning

Also, think about getting a performance coach. Finding a job that is right for you is a skill, and you can have more fun learning it with an expert showing you the way. Don't let fear keep you from diving in, just make sure that you get the help, guidance, and support that feels right. 

If you do that, you will not only avoid getting another wrong job but also become adept at managing other transitions more easily. Something that most of us will do many times over in our careers. 

Published on: Sep 9, 2019
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