Everyone doles out advice, even when you aren't asking. But something we don't talk about enough is all the bad advice we've internalized but aren't necessarily aware that we're taking. This is especially true when it comes to our careers.
Career advice is everywhere, and sometimes it's hard to know which tips will move you forward and which tips will hold you back. That's why I want to share five pieces of advice that I know - from experience and from working with my clients - you should never, ever take.
If you follow these tips below, you'll never achieve greatness.
1. Be happy with what you have even when it's just OK.
This is one of the primary ways that other people keep you small. They want you to believe that mediocre is as good as it gets. But it's those who never settle for anything less than greatness who end up achieving greatness in the end. If you are settling, realize that you're thwarting your ability to do more than you think is possible.
2. Take a job that pays well but doesn't excite you.
If you do this, you're operating from a place of scarcity and fear. Maybe you're scared you won't be able to make money doing something that you love or that excites you. But take a note from the young people who are just now entering the workforce: They're taking a stand for their joy. And guess what? They're getting it.
When you sell out for the money, that's what you'll end up with: money. If you want joy, you're going to have to demand it. Need some more inspiration? Watch the documentary "I AM" by Tom Shadyac to hear his story about what he learned when he prioritized money over joy.
3. Prioritize benefits and salary over the actual fit of the day-to-day work.
Benefits and an impressive salary are great bonuses, but you need to treat them as such. They're the icing on the cake of a job offer, but they aren't the cake itself. If you're feeling insecure or desperate, it's easy to take the first job that comes your way. And that's especially true if it comes with a good salary and benefits. But remember - it will end up costing you if you're making short-term decisions that don't pay off in the long run.
If you're worried about money, find a way to save for a job shift. It's ideal to have 3-6 months of a financial runway in case you don't find the right job for you right away. This will help you avoid the temptation to take the first offer that comes along.
4. Ignore the gut feeling that you deserve more.
Our instinct is a powerful decision-making tool that should be honored. If you have a feeling that things aren't right and believe that you could have a richer and more fulfilling work experience, you're probably right. Notice how often you have these instinctive thoughts. It's your truth speaking volumes. Once you have your answer, take a step - even a small one - in the direction you're meant to go.
5. Accept "good enough" as the best it can get.
If you're doing this, you're giving up. When I see people settling for "good enough" and suffering from a lack of confidence that they can achieve more, I think of this famous quote by Albert Einstein: "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."
We all have something special to offer the world. Are you really doing what you're meant to do? If not, you're eliminating the possibility that we'll be inspired by your contribution.
We want to learn from you. Shoot for your best so we have that chance.