Tom Landry, Dallas Cowboys Hall of Fame football coach said, "A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you always knew you could be."

Last week I shared the five positive coaching habits:

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The left side of this model shows five positive coaching habits that inspire winning results and relationships. This is the side of choice. Each day, coaches choose whether to take these actions. Their choices influence the right side of this model--the results.

If you choose your habits, then you must take responsibility for your results. You are responsible for the choices you make and for the results you ultimately achieve. If you choose not to build these coaching habits, you must accept these predictable outcomes:

·         Instead of Alignment, you get Confusion

·         Instead of Engagement, you get Disengagement

·         Instead of Ownership, you get Entitlement

·         Instead of Accountability, you get Blame

·         Instead of Commitment, you get Compliance.

These positive coaching habits are based on natural human dynamics and needs. That's why it does not look like rocket science and seems so simple. That's also why these habits work across generations, industries, and cultures; they meet universal human needs in the workplace.

It is easy for one thing or another to get in the way of these habits, but if you say "yes" to those things, you are saying "no" to winning results and relationships. Positive coaching is not a "salt and pepper" practice. You cannot sprinkle on a little explaining here and appreciation there and expect winning results or relationships. You must perform these habits consistently. If world-class athletes need a coach every day, why wouldn't your team?

Each  day  you're  making  a  choice  about  your  team's alignment, engagement, ownership, accountability, and commitment.  Inspiring coaches  integrate the positive coaching habits into their daily interactions, realizing it is the best formula for winning. Let's take a closer look at each of the five positive coaching habits and how they can help you inspire winning results and relationships for your team.

Learn more in the new book, The Power of Positive Coaching.