One of my favorite people on the planet is my personal coach Chris Lee. He is a world-renowned transformational and leadership coach who has made a massive impact in my life and in thousands of others' lives.

Chris has come on the School of Greatness podcast many times to talk about topics like relationships, abundance, listening, jealousy, and much more. So recently when we met up to record another episode, we wanted to cover a topic we hadn't discussed yet.

We chose a powerful one.

Something I learned early on in my own coaching from Chris was that if I let my ego run my relationships, especially with my employees and colleagues, I would always hold myself back. Instead, I'm learning how to empower them to become the best versions of themselves, which in turn supports me and my vision.

This is something I haven't heard talked about much, but it's so important.

Chris and I dove into the top seven ways to do this, what we call "starmaking," and you won't want to miss any of them.

The 7 Keys to Empower the People Around You

1. Identify and get over your own ego

As Chris points out, 99 percent of the problems in our relationships are created by our own attachment to our ego, our way, having control, etc. Instead, it's a powerful shift to let others take the reigns on everything you don't absolutely have to be directly involved in.

'Not only does this free up your valuable time to focus on your top priorities, but it lets your team know you trust them and expect the best from them. While it takes practice, learning to recognize when your ego is driving your decisions, versus your authentic self, is a huge help in working productively with others.

2. See potential and possibility in the gifts of the people around you

If you don't see people for who they can become, you're shortchanging them and you. Looking for and expecting the best out of your team tells them that you care and that they can count on your support for their personal growth.

This is far more motivating to them than intimidation or indifference. Find a characteristic in each employee that you see them becoming great at and coach them into that.

3. Acknowledge the strengths that people have

Never underestimate the power of acknowledgment to motivate and shift your team into action. Individual acknowledgments are often more impactful than group acknowledgments, though both are powerful.

Chris suggests instead of pointing out what's wrong with someone, say, "There's so much right about you." When your team knows you recognize their greatness, they will do their best to live up to it.

4. Acknowledge people's weaknesses from a positive place

Of course there are times when constructive criticism is essential and helpful. When coaching an employee on a shortcoming, make it about what is possible when they change that weakness into a strength. This makes it about something they can do, versus about who they are.

5. Develop the people around you

No matter how busy you are with growing your business, never put that ahead of your people. Investing in their growth, education, breakthroughs, and triumphs will guarantee you a team that takes care of the rest of the business.

Not only that, but they will look for ways to be in service to whatever you of them for years down the road. Think of these relationships as life-long even if the formal business relationship ends.

6. Pay it forward - have your people empower others

Encourage your team to empower each other, your clients, associates, and network. Teach them by example and let them experience the beauty of being a part of each other's growth.

This creates a wide ripple effect and allows them to tap into the power of being in service. That's never a bad thing in a company culture.

7. Practice consistently - appreciate the people around you

Above all, this takes constant practice. The good news is you can practice every day in simple ways. Set a goal to acknowledge at least three team members a day.

Make it part of company culture to start meetings with good news, appreciation, etc. Before you know it you'll have a team of stars who are investing in and empowering each other.

To hear our whole conversation, listen to this episode at http://lewishowes.com/podcast/chris-lee-starmaker/

Published on: Mar 30, 2016
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