Meet Rachel Nabors. She's a lot like you. Ambitious, funny, darn good at her job. She wants to give back to her professional community, so she starts fixing bugs in open source software. Thousands of developers like her contribute every day to open source projects like Wordpress. Problem was, no one accepted Rachel's stuff. 

The root cause of rejection

So why was Rachel's work rejected? Why is yours, or anyone's? Rachel got polite but firm pushbacks like:

·      That's not how "we" do it.

·      That's not common practice.

·      Better luck next time!  (But really, go away.)

If you're rejected repeatedly like Rachel, it's easy to blame yourself--maybe even natural to try to work harder to be accepted. Sometimes, you might want to reexamine that approach. It's not necessarily you.

A new study this week brilliantly illustrates why.

Researchers from Cal Poly and North Carolina State University just posted the world's largest study of gender bias in tech. They filtered 1.4 million records of developers who are contributing their code to open source projects for free. In return, they get to be identified as a professional contributor and get some personal satisfaction.

Whether you code or not, this isn't much different than your own professional community. Contributing publicly, like speaking on a panel, volunteering for board service, or bylining an article, is part of being in the "in" crowd.

Unreasonable rejection rules

What the researchers discovered in this huge data set was:

1.     When the woman's gender was identifiable (like the name Rachel), her code was rejected more often.

2.     When women's gender was not identifiable (a name like Geekfink), the code contributed was accepted at a higher rate than code contributed by men. (This held true across all 10 of the most popular programming languages.)

If you read between the lines that the code women contribute on GitHub is generally awesome,  you got it. Thus, if the system were logical, its bias would be towards accepting code from women. The irrational bias is the opposite.

Now you're thinking, this study correlates with every other study  that shows that women perform as well as or better than men at work, but face real discrimination. There are lots of studies that show that guys face similar discrimination pursuing careers that aren't culturally "acceptable" --like nursing and teaching.  Minorities and really, any kind of "outsider" faces it too.

So what do we do to get over being rejected? 

1. Do what you can to minimize how different you appear when you can--like gender-neutral icons in a virtual work setting.

2. Otherwise, try not to let it get you down. (Rachel drew a comic about her experience--a great example of using humor to highlight a situation.)

3. Remind yourself it's not you--it's them. That outsider perspective that earns you rejection is exactly what makes you valuable to smart teams that value diversity because it drives performance.

Changing the "petty powers that be"

Where monocultures are embedded (like board rooms and tech), the biggest performance opportunities are yet to be realized because diversity is not yet a reality.

Fortunately, lots of people are taking rejection every day, and going back for more, to change the face of their own professions to be more inclusive. Ways to do it include:

1. Mentoring a woman or a minority

2. Starting a diversity tracking program and reporting your numbers, and

3. Refusing to be on panels that showcase monocultural perspectives.  (Related: Surprising Secrets From The DevOps Team Behind Twitter)

It's not easy being rejected, but hopefully next time it happens to you, this study may help explain the unexplainable.  While you may be professionally isolated by today's petty Powers That Be, you're far from alone out there.