For decades, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has proven to be a leadership development powerhouse ever since Daniel Goleman published his New York Times best seller, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.

As an executive coach helping leaders grow, I have seen first-hand how the lack of emotional intelligence can severely limit a leader's ability to manage self, manage people, and manage work situations.

Your Arsenal of Quotes

Here are 56 quotes to download into your conscience that will help you to understand emotions in yourself and others, and how this understanding can help manage your relationships.

  1. When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves. --Jess C. Scott
  2. The only way to change someone's mind is to connect with them from the heart. -- Rasheed Ogunlaru
  3. No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. -- Theodore Roosevelt
  4. No doubt emotional intelligence is more rare than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader. You just can't ignore it. -- Jack Welch

  5. Leadership's First Commandment: Know Thyself. -- Harvard Business Review

  6. ​The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions. -- John Hancock
  7. In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive, and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding. -- Daniel Goleman
  8. Every time we allow someone to move us with anger, we teach them to be angry. -- Barry Neil Kaufman
  9. Our feelings are not there to be cast out or conquered. They're there to be engaged and expressed with imagination and intelligence. -- T.K. Coleman
  10. It isn't stress that makes us fall--it's how we respond to stressful events. -- Wayde Goodall
  11. Use pain as a stepping stone, not a camp ground." -- Alan Cohen
  12. If you want maximal productivity and if you want work that gets the best results, you want the people doing that work to be in the optimal brain state for the work. You are a person who can evict them from the zone of optimal performance by slothfully handling your own interactions with them. So it's up to you to take responsibility for your impact on their ability to work at their best. -- Daniel Goleman
  13. We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel. -- Marshall B. Rosenberg
  14. We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us--how we can take it, what we do with it--and that is what really counts in the end. -- Joseph Fort Newton
  15. When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought to your life. -- Tara Meyer Robson
  16. Knowing others and knowing oneself, in one hundred battles no danger. Not knowing the other and knowing oneself, one victory for one loss. Not knowing the other and not knowing oneself, in every battle certain defeat. -- Sun Tzu
  17. Where we have strong emotions, we're liable to fool ourselves. -- Carl Sagan
  18. It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head--it is the unique intersection of both." -- David Caruso
  19. We tend to think of leadership as something you do externally. The good leaders are the ones who are comfortable in their own skins. They understand what they are about -- they understand their purpose in life and their strengths. They have a level of comfort with themselves that leads to a level of comfort with others. -- Dan Pink
  20. The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have, and to be able to lose all desire for things beyond your reach. -- Lin Yutang
  21. Emotional intelligence does not mean merely "being nice". At strategic moment it may demand not "being nice", but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they've been avoiding. -- Daniel Goleman
  22. The nervous system and hormone responses of hostile people are a pathway to disease and death. -- Redford Williams, M.D
  23. Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality." -- Erich Fromm
  24. Experience is not what happens to you -- it's how you interpret what happens to you. -- Aldous Huxley
  25. Experiencing one's self in a conscious manner-that is, gaining self-knowledge-is an integral part of learning. -- Joshua M. Freedman
  26. Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. -- Robert K. Cooper. Ph.D.
  27. Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions. -- David Borenstein
  28. For news of the heart, ask the face. -- West African saying
  29. He who spends time regretting the past loses the present and risks the future. -- Quevedo
  30. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you are the one who gets burned. -- Buddha
  31. Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment based on what you are feeling and thinking. That is what's real. -- Doc Childre
  32. Revenge has no more quenching effect on emotions than salt water has on thirst. -- Walter Weckler
  33. The degree of one's emotions varies inversely with one's knowledge of the facts. -- Bertrand Russell
  34. The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions. -- Donald Calne
  35. There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving... and that's your own self. -- Aldous Huxley
  36. You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind. -- Dale Carnegie
  37. Leaders influence the team's mood. The team's mood drives performance. What's your conclusion? -- Joshua Freedman
  38. Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values. -- Joshua L. Liebman
  39. The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm. -- Alous Huxley
  40. I think it's easy to mistake understanding for empathy -- we want empathy so badly. ... It's hard and ugly to know somebody can understand you without even liking you. -- Thomas Harris
  41. The eyes have one language everywhere. -- George Herbert
  42. When you listen with empathy to another person, you give that person psychological air. -- Stephen R. Covey
  43. Be not disturbed at being misunderstood; be disturbed rather at not being understanding. -- Chinese proverb
  44. Change happens in the boiler room of our emotions -- so find out how to light their fires. -- Jeff Dewar
  45. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. -- Paul Boese
  46. The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions. -- John Hancock
  47. Fall seven times, stand up eight. -- Australian Aboriginal proverb
  48. An analysis of the personality traits that accompany high IQ in men who lack these emotional competencies portrays, well, the stereotypical nerd: critical and condescending, inhibited and uncomfortable with sensuality, emotionally bland. By contrast, men with the traits that mark emotional intelligence are poised and outgoing, committed to people and causes, sympathetic and caring, with a rich but appropriate emotional life - they're comfortable with themselves, others, and the social universe they live in. -- Daniel Goleman
  49. A belief is not merely the idea the mind possesses; it is an idea that possesses the mind. -- Japanese proverb
  50. Fear makes strangers of people who could be friends. -- Sir Thomas Browne
  51. The most important educational goal is learning to learn. -- Aristotle
  52. Interpersonal communication and other so-called soft skills are what corporate recruiters crave most but find most elusive in M.B.A. graduates. The major business schools produce graduates with analytical horsepower and solid command of the basics -- finance, marketing and strategy. But soft skills such as communication, leadership and a team mentality sometimes receive cursory treatment. -- Wall Street Journal
  53. Questions are the creative acts of intelligence. -- Plato
  54. Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions. -- Rainer Maria Rilke
  55. Tell me, and I'll forget. Show me, and I may not remember. Involve me, and I'll
    understand. -- Albert Einstein
  56. The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. -- William James