Change is inevitable. Some conditions will be easy to adjust to, while others may provoke internal conflict. If you're not in command, then you can be certain something is going to happen at some point that you don't agree with. The culture will change, the business's strategy will shift, and life as you know it will have to evolve.

Now, I'm not saying that you have to lay down and blindly accept what's happening. That's a surefire way to sabotage your attitude as you'll harbor resentment. Instead, you should address your feelings, seek to understand, and move on.

In May's edition of HR Grapevine, Elva Ainsworth, CEO and founder of Talent Innovations, discusses four ways to overcome your resistance to change.

1. Listen, look and share

If the new policy, process or decision is causing an issue, acknowledge and document it. Afterward, set up a time with your boss to discuss your observations and restate the issue clearly. Better yet, reproduce it (theoretically).

They key is to take the right angle and have the right tone. No manager will be upset with you for showing warranted concern for your team/company.

2. Ask for clarification

If you believe that a decision is not in the best interest of the team/company's goals, then ask for further explanation. Fortunately, our leaders can't read our minds. So if you need clarification, make sure that you speak up. Unless you say something, Managers may believe that everyone is on the same page.

Rather than making assumptions or shouldering resentment, ask your manager to explain their intentions.

3. Share your personal experience

I'm going against the grain with this comment, but here goes nothing: Tell your manager how you're feeling. Often, high-level decisions make sense logically but neglect to account for the emotional fallout. Letting your manager know how a decision is impacting you may be a warning sign of how it might affect others.

4. Put the issue to bed

There will be times when it's impossible to come to a compromise. It's best at this point to refocus your energy elsewhere. Hopefully, getting the issue off your chest helped alleviate some anxiety. If not, then you'll have to make a decision: accept the situation as it is or agree to disagree.

It's better for you, and your sanity, to address feelings of resistance and move on. Although the tips above might seem uncomfortable, they will help address the instability and concern that comes from change.

Published on: May 8, 2017
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