To be happy, you have to want to be happy. It is a personal choice. You can define your own happiness; it is OK. Going through life is easier when you embrace happiness and when you see life through a more positive lens. Not only that, but you will be more successful. It is possible--all you have to do is make the choice to be happy.

Research shows that when you're happier at work, the outcomes are better: Task accuracy increases by 19 percent, productivity by 31 percent, and sales by 37 percent. So why not be happy?

Try these three remarkably effective ways to create a happier you, and enjoy your happier, more successful life.

1. Choose to be happy

Make a conscious decision to boost your happiness. You must be intentional about being happy. Your intention to be happy is the active motivation and commitment to achieve happiness. You need to consciously choose behaviors--like being kind and speaking positively--that lead to happiness. Take advantage of the countless opportunities to learn how to be happy. For example, learn good time-management and communications skills. Opt to be in positive environments that will increase your happiness. Also, surround yourself with people who build you up, encourage you, and support you.

2. Foster forgiveness

 

Holding on to grudges can negatively affect your physical and mental health. One solution to diminish negative feelings like these is to foster forgiveness. This decreases the power of negative events that produce resentment and anger in you. You can recall an offense, and then sympathize with the person who hurt you. Now, bring to memory a time in your life when you were forgiven. How does it feel? Focus on holding on to forgiveness. Do not dwell on your resentment, anger, and hurt. Lack of forgiveness can cause you to experience anxiety, stress, and even depression. Practicing forgiveness, kindness, and empathy hugely increases your happiness levels.

3. Combat negative thoughts and feelings

It is extremely important that you take care of your mental hygiene. Make a commitment to yourself that you will do the necessary things to combat negative thoughts and feelings. Research has shown that it is possible. You can learn to identify your negative thoughts and feelings through self-awareness, meditating, and keeping a journal. Once you identify recurring negative thoughts and feelings, you can start the reframing process. For example, if you think you are not talented, immediately combat that thought by saying to yourself "I am talented, I am very talented." In addition, regularly engaging in exercise--such as walking, yoga, and swimming--is very beneficial to helping you boost your happy thoughts and feelings.

Published on: Jul 2, 2015