No matter how honest we may be in our interactions with others, there's always the possibility that people may misconstrue our words to mean otherwise. Certain key phrases that we say, sometimes even without us knowing, result in others perceiving us a certain way--whether rightly or wrongly.
Check out seven phrases that actually encourage people to trust you, rather than thinking you're someone who is less transparent than you really are.
Rather than using the word "honestly," which is often perceived to be a tip-off to dishonest words that will follow, the word "frankly" allows you to convey that you really do mean what you're saying. If you're careful with your word choice, others will definitely believe you more than they might otherwise.
2. "And that's really everything I know."
Using this phrase at the end of a statement or description about something you know helps your listener understand that there is truly nothing else you could add to the discussion that isn't your own speculation.
3. "This is my side of it."
Qualifying what you say with a disclaimer of sorts--that your story is not necessarily the complete story, but rather the story that you're able to tell--helps give you credibility. People who are aware of their limits are generally better received than those who are ignorant of them.
4. "I truly/genuinely thought..."
Employing the vulnerable first person to share your opinion, along with the gentle word "thought," helps you to convey what it is you're trying to say in a manner that's easy to believe. People are more inclined to believe you if you seem sincere about your thoughts.
5. "Sometimes, I find that..."
Something as small as the word "sometimes," which indicates a stray away from absolutes like "always" or "never," allows you to be more flexible in whatever you're saying--and instantly makes whatever observation you're sharing more credible.
6. "That's something I wouldn't really consider."
When accused of an action, it's easier to respond instantly and with great expression in the negative--regardless of how true it may be. A level-headed phrase seems much more appropriate in context.
7. "I just want you to say..."
Rather than trying to appeal to the emotions of whomever you're talking to, it's easier to simply express your side of things. That way, your emotions--rather than their facts--take the forefront, and an emotional appeal is always easy to trust.