If you want to stand out from the crowd and get noticed for the right reasons, one of the best ways is to be tactful. Tactfulness is being able to communicate in a sensible manner with others while considering their feelings. Always be direct, but honest and compassionate so that people know that your intentions are good.

Tact helps you build up your reputation and credibility. Additionally, being tactful displays your high levels of professionalism, integrity, and maturity.

Here's a guide to help you master tactfulness in your own communications.

1. Think before you speak

How many times have you caught yourself speaking too fast, only to regret it afterward? Thinking before you speak can save you from undesired situations. Practice active listening when you speak with people. Establish an emotional connection with others to see things from their perspective, and also to earn their trust.

2. Know where and when to talk

Tact implies saying the right things at the right time. Evaluate your situation and the environment that you're in before you speak, and be prudent. Make sure that you're aware of who you're with and where you are before your speak. There's always a place and a time to speak and listen to certain things.

3. Select your words wisely

The words you use can influence how others perceive what you're saying. Often times, it's tempting to keep talking, and as a consequence, you risk the chance of saying too much or saying something that you'll regret. Be honest and assertive, and only say what's needed. Nothing more, nothing less.

4. Pay attention to your body language

Ensure that your body language is aligned with what you're saying. Make eye contact, don't move too much, don't fake your smile, and don't get too close to people's faces; in general, practice good posture. A positive body language and a polite tone of voice communicates your thoughtfulness and respect for others

5. Watch your emotions

When you feel angry or frustrated, it's difficult to communicate tactfully. Take time to regain your composure before you react or respond. Be open to learn how to control your emotions and understand what triggers them. To regain composure from a stressful situation, go outside for a walk or practice meditation for a few minutes.

Published on: Jul 24, 2015
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