"If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive." -- Betty Eadie
Words matter. They have the power to heal, and have the power to wound.
And who they affect is not just others, by the way -- your words can affect you, too.
You should not only avoid speaking negatively about yourself to yourself, but you must also be careful about the words you use when approaching new goals. Here are the words and phrases you should avoid when setting goals or dreaming of a better you.
Live in the present. Is it productive or effective to always think about "someday?" You may feel good for the moment, when you proclaim that "one day" you will be successful, or "one day" you will have accomplished your dream. But don't forget that in order to get to that someday, you will have to put in the work today.
Want or wish.
If you want to control your fate, you must talk as if you are already steering your own ship. To say you "want" or "wish for" something means you are taking a passive approach towards your goals. Don't expect for change to come -- go ahead and take steps toward change right now.
Not motivated enough.
You may insert any word in place of "motivated" in this instance (not strong enough, not smart enough, etc). Avoid putting yourself down and know what motivation does not matter so much as discipline. Besides, how can you accurately measure how much is "enough," anyway?
What are you waiting for, exactly? The right moment? To be ready? It is important to not allow yourself to even consider putting things off, especially if you're at the beginning of your self-improvement journey. As Nike says, "Just Do It."
I need more time.
You have the same amount of minutes and hours in the day as everyone else. To say you don't have the time to dedicate toward a goal is to limit yourself on what you can accomplish. You may "feel" like you don't have enough time, but someone else who believes that will still put in the work to free up their mornings or evenings to create a better life for themselves.
A life full of exciting achievements and incredible accomplishments is in store for you -- just be mindful of the words you say to yourself.