And not just your achievements, milestones, or goals reached--have you celebrated your unique traits? Your imperfections? Everything that makes you different from the rest of the crowd?
Although fitting in sounds tempting, it will always be okay to go against the grain. In fact, it's even beneficial to go against yourself.
Yes, you should celebrate your contradictions, too. Here's why:
Contradiction helps create depth.
Perhaps you are a stern, highly disciplined person at work. But what if, after office hours, you let yourself remove the armor? Less concerned with maintaining your image and sticking to routine, what if, for example, you let loose and went out dancing? When you allow yourself to do or be something that differs from your normal state of being, there will be more to you than meets the eye. This is the key to having a personality with depth.
Contradiction helps expand perspective.
When you are less concerned with what is "right" or "wrong," you will remain flexible and open to exploring differing viewpoints. This ultimately helps you approach the complexities of life in a more effective manner. Cultivating and tolerating contradictions helps you look at any topic through a new lens and new perspective.
Contradicting yourself leads to solutions.
Because your mindset will not be fixed or seriously limited, how you view others, life, and the world will change. As a result, you will be able to draw connections between viewpoints that clash, learning from opposite sides and all angles. Gaining the ability to seriously consider and understand different perspectives can help you ease intense emotions in any given situation or help you resolve conflicts. Being comfortable in a space of contradictions means being comfortable in a space where compromise can be reached.
Contradicting yourself shows progress.
Life can be a long, winding journey full of changes and lessons. So, don't be surprised if the experiences you go through nudge you to rearrange previously-held thought patterns and conclusions. Upholding firm convictions can be a good thing, but if you are too afraid to be "wrong" or not keen on ever contradicting your most strongly-held beliefs, your search for truth will not be a fruitful one.
In "Song of Myself," poet Walt Whitman remarked, "Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself. I am large; I contain multitudes."
Every human is a unique entity, chockfull of contradictions and complexities. Appreciate all these qualities on your road to personal growth and development.