All of us have friends--both at work and in our personal lives--but some people simply seem to have many more friends than others. It turns out, however, that it doesn't matter so much how many friends we've got at the end of the day; it's much more about how well we understand the ones we do possess.
In a recent study, 84 people were asked to self-report on their respective relationships with other people. During the course of the study, participants were asked to rank their relationships with others on a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being the lowest score (the person is a complete stranger) and 5 being the highest level of intimacy (the number you'd give for a best friend).
The study's results showed that, ultimately, feelings regarding the level of closeness between two "friends" were only mutual 53 percent of the time. Thus, only roughly half of all relationships are built with an equal understanding of how close the two people really are.
This failure to see eye-to-eye could potentially be chalked up to the fact that every person defines what friendship is and what makes up a friend differently.
For one person, getting lunch every day and making small talk can mean that they're close friends with the other person, whereas that other person might consider them merely an acquaintance.
This lack of communication, however, can likely be easily solved with a little work.
With those you value, be sure to take the time to properly speak to them about what you understand your relationship to be. It's only after you determine how similarly you and the other person feel about each other that you will be able to move the relationship forward.
With adequate efforts at communicating how you feel--and listening to how the other person feels--on a regular basis, you will surely be able to find a solid handful of friends who you'll always be able to count on. Soon, you'll definitely have people with whom you don't need to worry whether they like you or not.