How do I control my mind and focus on my goals? originally appeared on Quora - the place to gain and share knowledge, empowering people to learn from others and better understand the world.

Answer by Awdhesh Singh, Author of Books on Spiritual Intelligence & Leadership, on Quora:

It is true that our mind is very fickle. It keeps chattering all the time with or without our permission. It is also a fact that it does not listen to our will when we wish to focus it on anything. Even if we force our mind to do something; it, like a naughty boy, start playing its own game as soon as the force is relaxed.

We can control our mind. However, we have to understand the four realities of our being. These are

1. Body

2. Mind

3. Feeling (Heart)

4. Soul

Since all these four belong to one single reality, we can discipline our mind by disciplining the others.

1: Discipline Your Body

If you can discipline your body, your mind shall be disciplined. This is a time tested technique which is used by all military academies all over the world to discipline the mind of the soldiers. The training starts with the discipline of their body and soon their mind is so disciplined that they can jump from a cliff by an order of their boss. The same principle is behind Yoga, Meditation, rituals, fasting and numerous other methods which discipline the body and hence discipline the mind.

2: Mind Your Emotion

Many people wear their emotions on sleeve. They fall in love every alternate day and then curse the other person for not responding to their gesture. They hate almost everyone and then wonder why others hate them so much.

You have to make yourself less vulnerable to emotional stress by limiting your dependence on only few people. You must also take care of the emotions of other people so that they also take care of your emotions. Once you are emotionally stable, your mind shall not waver.

3: Strengthen Your Soul

Someone has said wisely that if you win the world but lose your soul, it is of no value. You nurture your soul by doing righteous, moral and legal actions according to your conscious and for the benefit of all human being. However, some people don't mind selling their soul for dime. Once they lose their soul, the mind loses direction. Soul is like a light that directs our mind to the right direction. Without it, mind start ruling you and you become its servant. To keep your soul, develop faith in God or in Humanity. If your faith is intact, your mind has to follow your orders without questioning.

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