I'm not sure if this is optimistic or depressing advice, but I have learned that there's no way I can be a 10/10 at everything - whether CEO, husband or parent.
Life as a father has been about being 80-20 and trying to be as great in those roles as possible given the finite amount of time I have to dedicate to each. None of this means I'm less ambitious, it just means I can't sweat the small stuff as there isn't the time.
I used to work until 8pm or so in the office every night. Now I leave around 6:30-7pm to make it home for bath-time with my son and dinner with my wife. I'll jump onto my laptop again after dinner to keep going.
I've read lots of articles recently that trash the "work all day" culture, and that's definitely not what I'm celebrating or proposing here. But for 99.9% of entrepreneurs it's simply not true that your company will magically grow. It takes a lot of work.
My wife and I also make sure we have a date night every week when our nanny will look after our son. And I try to keep my weekends sacrosanct to hang out with my kid because I love him a lot and it's so important to me that we get uninterrupted days together at least twice a week.
The hardest thing is being present. I hate it when I'm with my son but my mind is still thinking about work. I've occasionally practiced meditation which has helped, but I'm still working on being better at this and I'd be lying if I told you I'd cracked the code.
I've spoken to many successful entrepreneurs about finding the right balance and not a single person has ever claimed to have found it. I think you continue to seek it, and then one day (say you exit and take time off) it just isn't a problem anymore.
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