So in honor of Mother's Day, Fairygodboss polled several of our users to collect their tactics for managing the infamous juggle of career and parenting. Here are some of the greatest nuggets we heard:
1. Plan Ahead
Several women we spoke with talked about how by getting out ahead of their responsibilities (and necessities), they can feel less hectic when they're in the thick of things during their busy week.
"I cook the majority of my son's meals on Sundays so I don't have to think about it during the week," said Camille.
Georgene, my partner, cooks dinner in the morning so it's out of the way.
Rachel said, "I'm not sure I even want to admit this, but I always shower the night before. Mornings are so hectic -- between making breakfast, making lunch, getting the kids and myself dressed...It's such a time saver."
2. Outsource, Delegate...and Order In
Celine told us, "Hire someone to clean your house. Otherwise, it is such a time suck, and it's last thing you need to do at the end of the day or on the weekend."
Camille agreed, "We use a cloth diaper service and bring in a house cleaner as needed."
Laura, who lives in New York City, said, "I hate to confess just how often I order in dinner. Seamless is my best friend. But otherwise, I feel like the time I'd spend making dinner would come right out of the time I have to spend with my kids."
And don't forget to delegate to...your kids. Anni tells us, "I encourage my daughter to throw away all her own garbage, put her own laundry in the hamper, and help put away folded clothes. It can end up saving a minute here and there."
3. Involve Your Spouse
Type-A women who soar to the tops of their careers can often find it hard to loosen the reins and ask for help at home. (That's not something I would know anything about. Ha.) Several women told us that carving out time and responsibilities for their husbands and partners was essential -- for efficiency's sake, and also for relationship building.
"Make sure my husband has proper bonding time with our son - i.e. he puts him to bed most nights, and gives him his daily baths," said Camille. That gives me time to rest, relax, and recharge for the next workday.
4. Set a Regular Date Night
At the same time, when you're balancing career and children, it can get really easy to neglect your spouse or partner.
Alice recommends schedules a regular night out with her husband. "Every Thursday night, we get a babysitter, and she puts the kids to bed. We work out and then go to dinner...and that way we get our workout in and get a chance to catch up and reconnect."
5. Network...With Other Moms
Several women mentioned how knowing other mom's -- both working and stay-at-home -- helped them manage the pressure and also stay on top of school requirements.
According to Janet, "The best advice I give my working mom friends is to become friends with the stay at home moms. I have several moms that I can reach out to for help at anytime. Pick up, drop off or those texts to find out what's the latest on school happenings."
Sarah, as well as many others, talked about mother's groups they belonged to through which they had made important friendships. "It's so essential to have friends with children exactly the same age, at the same schools, etc. Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed or unsure of how to handle a situation, they're always there to listen. And I don't know what I'd do without our moms nights out."
Several moms told us how exhausted they felt, and that they would do anything for just a little more sleep.
Linda had a good solution: "My husband and I trade off napping on Saturdays and Sundays (we each get one day) while the other one takes the kids. That one little break can restore me for the whole next week."
7. Be Present
Finally, Shaunda told us, "BE PRESENT. At the end of so many days of feeling not good enough at being a mom, a wife, an employee, I've found one thing that makes it a little better and makes me feel I'm good enough: Be present in every moment! Multitasking is for the birds! Instead take each moment to be fully present. I understand there are interruptions.... Don't multitask the interruption.... Own it!"