Have you ever been with a friend who smells something in the room strongly that you barely smell? That's because individuals experience the world differently through their five senses, cognitive functions, and ability to receive, gain, and expend energy.
It can be easy to sort things out when two people have different reactions to scents. But it's more challenging when fundamental aspects of peoples' personalities clash.
Making an effort to learn how a variety of people experience the world can help you cultivate more empathy, compassion and respect -- not to mention, relieve confusion and tension.
These three books will instantly have you observing your work and personal relationships from a different perspective.
1. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
Elaine Aron teaches you that many people are more highly sensitive than you would imagine. Growing up, people are often taught to suppress their sensitivity and to contain themselves in an attempt to fit in, she says.
This book helps you identify the highly sensitive person. You can feel overwhelmed or confused if you do not recognize what is happening for them in each moment.
Learning how to identify the traits of a highly sensitive person, and seeing them for the strengths they can be, can lead to growth in the workplace, deeper intimacy in personal relationships, and fulfillment overall.
2. The Enneagram: Understanding Yourself and the Others In Your Life
Helen Palmer explains personality types based on the ancient system of the enneagram. Nine different personality types equip you with a clear picture of how each personality type can thrive at work and in the world and how individuals with these personalities can also get in their own way.
You will learn about ways in which you get in your own way of success and happiness. You might be able to identify which personality type the people in your life are, and how to interact with them successfully to relieve unnecessary conflict, confusion, and stress.
3. The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World
Before you make a judgment about whether you are an introvert or extrovert, read this book. Many people have successfully learned extrovert skills in order to achieve success and are actually introverts.
Marti Olsen Laney digs deep into this topic by breaking conventional paradigms around introverts and extroverts. This book is filled with lessons on how you and those around you can better receive, gain and process energy.
You will be left with more compassion for yourself and others as you learn to understand the subtleties of how important it is to nurture the relationship to energy.