You may unknowingly be using short phrases to preface your statements, creating a lack ownership over the message you are conveying.
You can improve your communication skills through developing continued awareness and implementing small tweaks on a daily basis.
I just wanted to see where the project is at.
I just wanted to say hello.
I just wanted to talk about the meeting we had yesterday.
I just wanted to write you an email to say that I am sorry about the mistake.
I just wanted to check in with you.
I just wanted to see how you're doing.
I just wanted to let you know that you look really nice today.
There are many words and phrases that are thieves of power. In order to stay in your power you must own your message. Here's how to re-phrase the statements above to take ownership.
Where is the status of project as of today?
I'd like to discuss yesterday's meeting.
I am sorry about the mistake I made.
I am checking in with you.
How are you doing?
Wow! You look really nice today.
"Just wanted to" is only one example of a 'power-killer' when communicating. If you want to run a 'power-killer' test, ask yourself if you are prefacing your statement or if you're just stating it.
Do not hide behind prefaces. Making a statement from a place of ownership empowers others to do the same.