Halloween is a traditionally scary time of year for children. But grown-ups know that there's a lot more to worry about than Frankenstein or vampires. And there's plenty of reasons to get the jitters all year long.
The world is a scary place on many levels in many real ways. And the workplace itself is fraught with unthinkable "what if's" and "uh-ohs." Every day you grapple with problems: Office politics, shifting markets, downsizing and mergers, new technologies, and old neuroses are just a few of the things that can get in our way and undermine our efforts.
However, experts and life coaches advise us that when we step into our fears, we learn quickly that many worries are like a fog.
What will you accomplish once you burn off that fog and take some risks? What will it feel like to be free of that fear? Or, at least, to make friends with it so it's not paralyzing.
Be inspired by these quotes--wisdom from people who may seem like they've always had it all, but who have struggled to succeed.
- "Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it."
- "Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
- "You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do."
- "Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."
- "The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."
- "Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.'
- "The key to change... is to let go of fear."
- "He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
- "We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets."
- "Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones."
--Thich Nhat Hanh
- "Once there was a young warrior. Her teacher told her that she had to do battle with fear. She didn't want to do that. It seemed too aggressive; it was scary; it seemed unfriendly. But the teacher said she had to do it and gave her the instructions for the battle. The day arrived. The student warrior stood on one side, and fear stood on the other. The warrior was feeling very small, and fear was looking big and wrathful. They both had their weapons. The young warrior roused herself and went toward fear, prostrated three times, and asked, "May I have permission to go into battle with you?" Fear said, "Thank you for showing me so much respect that you ask permission." Then the young warrior said, "How can I defeat you?" Fear replied, "My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnerved, and you do whatever I say. If you don't do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. You can even be convinced by me. But if you don't do what I say, I have no power." In that way, the student warrior learned how to defeat fear."
- "Have no fear of perfection--you'll never reach it."
- "Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold."
- "I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship."
--Louisa May Alcott
- "One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do."
- "Don't let the fear of striking out hold you back."
- "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
- "If your dreams don't scare you, they're not big enough."
--Ellen Sirleaf, President of Liberia