Whenever I write about the problems Millennials face at work, I get emails from people saying "stop blaming Millennials." I'm not blaming Millennials. I'm blaming their parents for being overbearing twits. LinkedIn is sponsoring LinkedIn Bring in Your Parents Day. I'm here to tell you, don't do it. Just say no.
Look, you had no choice when your mom showed up to your prom to make sure her baby was OK, but you do have a choice now. Here's the deal. Your parents do not belong at your job.
See, LinkedIn believes that because two-thirds of people wish their parents would give them more career advice than they do, the solution is to bring mom and dad into the office so they can learn about your job.
If your mom or dad jump at the chance to come into the office, they are the last people on the planet you want at the office. If they don't think this is a good idea, then it's probably OK to bring them in. Here's why you don't want your eager mom to be at your office.
Your boss and co-workers will not think highly of you.
It's tough enough to gain respect when you're 22 or even 30 in an office full of older workers. When your mom shows up, that makes it nearly impossible.
You may want you parent's advice, but you may be better off without it.
When you've spent your whole life with your parents telling you what to do, it makes sense to go to them for guidance. But, unless your mom or dad is in your field, they aren't the best mentors. Even if they are in the same field, they love you and are biased in your favor. This means they can't give you the feedback you really need. Pick a nonrelated mentor and ask for that person's advice.
Your parents don't need to know what you do every day.
This isn't because you're doing something bad or objectionable. It's just that you're an adult. You have conversations with them on an adult level. That means talking about your job, of course, but it doesn't mean coming into your office. You need those apron strings cut.
You can't grow up if you rely too much on mom or dad.
I admit it--my mom's a nurse and I sometimes still call her for medical advice. I'm not telling you to stop calling your mom. But, if you want to become successful, you need to be your own person. This does mean you'll make mistakes from time to time, but they'll be your own mistakes. The reality is, if you take all the advice your parents give you, it will still be a bad idea from time to time. But, when you fail it will be their fault, not yours, and you're less likely to learn and grow.
Advice often comes with strings attached.
Rejecting that advice can cause family rifts. Better to not get the advice in the first place rather than get it and have to reject it.
Your parents love you, of course. You love them. But keep that love to the occasional Sunday dinner and not to the office. Your career will thank you.