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There’s always that person in your life you admire from afar--the funny but intelligent co-worker, the admirable boss with a kick-ass routine, or even that friend of yours who can get just about anyone in your office to smile (even on a bad day).
Well, here’s the big secret you’ve probably never thought to tell yourself: That could be you, too. Seriously, being well-liked by others doesn’t involve casting a spell or engineering a great illusion. Gaining respect at work, or making lots of friends, or acting as a great leader isn’t only for some special people. It’s a skill that just about anyone can pick up--and pretty quickly, in fact.
So how do you become “one of them?” These 12 behaviors of likable individuals will change your whole perspective:
- Likable people aren’t afraid to ask questions, such as “How can I help” or “What do you think?”
- Likable people are inclusive; no matter where they are or what they’re doing, they find a way to include others who seem a bit out of place or could use a friend.
- Likable people know when, and when not, to talk during meetings--especially when they are talking solely for the sake of hearing their own voice.
- Likable people help out newbies, even new bosses who are still adjusting to being the head honcho.
- Likable people apply their seemingly unrelated life skills to work.
- Likable people know just what to say at the right time (the most important phrase being “Thank you!”).
- Likable people do little acts of kindness every day--all of which are super easy to work into your routine.
- Likable people are emotionally intelligent--which means they’re not only aware of their own emotions, but sensitive to other people’s as well.
- Likable people have better things to say than “Don’t worry” when another person is upset.
- Likable people know how to politely shut down negative people.
- Likable people also know how to give criticism without sounding condescending.
- Finally, likable people know when it’s appropriate to be the “cool guy,” and when to be a strong leader.
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