It’s Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day today. Taking your kids to work with you is a great way to expose them to different jobs and let them try new things. That’s exactly what it takes to raise leaders, says Julie Lythcott-Haims, who spent a decade as the dean of freshmen students at Stanford University.  

In her New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, she says that a phenomenon we’ve been hearing about since the 1990s-;helicopter parenting-;is crashing hard in American society.

What can we do? Let your children fail sometimes. “We want so badly to help them by shepherding them from milestone to milestone and by shielding them from failure and pain. But ‘over-helping’ causes harm,” Lythcott-Haimes wrote. “It can leave young adults without the strengths of skill, will, and character that are needed to know themselves and to craft a life.”