Many people go through life on autopilot, doing the same things day after day without considering how their routines affect their lives. If you want to change your habits and create a better life for yourself, it's important to pay attention to how you spend your time. Here are 7 things you should stop doing today if you want a happier life:
1. STOP talking to toxic people
Talking to negative, toxic people drains you of your energy and ruin your mood. It doesn't matter if this person is your sister or your friend from elementary school; if someone leaves you feeling bad after you talk, avoid them. You should surround yourself with people who make you feel good about after being around and talking to them.
2. STOP regretting things
Regretting is a waste of time and energy. You can't undo the things you have done, so why continue thinking about them? Conversely, if you wish you had done something in your past, then do it now; it's never too late. If you wanted to train for a marathon when you were 20, you can do it now. If you wish you had made up with your former best friend after a big fight, contact her now. Sometimes you over analyze or fall under the 'paralysis by analysis' spell, which is normal, but you can't continue torturing yourself about it. Instead of being miserable, realize that you can either let it go or do something about it now.
3. STOP procrastinating
If you have goals, procrastinating by binge-watching Netflix is holding you back from achieving them. It takes time and energy to get the things you want. Even if you only want to clean out your closet or organize the pantry, it's important to stop thinking about it and hoping for the perfect time. Just get in there and start doing it. Starting is always the hardest part, but once you begin and see the progress you're making, you'll be motivated to continue.
4. STOP putting everyone else first
Being helpful and available to others when they need you is nice, but you want to make sure that your good nature isn't taken advantage of. You don't need to sacrifice your own time and energy to make everyone else's life easier. Make time for yourself and learn to say "no" when someone asks you for a favor, especially if they can do for themselves.
5. STOP expecting people to change
People show you exactly who they are through their actions, so it's crucial that you pay attention. People will say nice things to make you believe they are good, but if their actions contradict their words, trust the actions. If you tell someone about how you don't like the way they treat you, and they change for one day and then revert to their old habits the next, don't expect this person to change. If you have taught someone that they can get away with poor behavior toward you, the chances they will change are slim. You don't want to force someone to treat you better.
6. STOP spending so much money
You might be used to buying a $5 coffee every morning on your way to work, but bringing coffee from home more often will save you money. You may habitually go shopping every time you get a paycheck, and now your closet is full of clothes you haven't seen since you brought it home. By becoming more aware of what you spend, you will not only save money for the future, but you'll stop filling your home with things you don't need.
7. STOP settling
You don't need to settle for anything you are less than excited with. You can be grateful and content with your current life and still work toward your ultimate goals and dreams. Just because you have a good life, a job, and a roof over your head, doesn't mean you need to settle and remain where you are for the rest of your life. If you've always dreamed of buying a beach house, climbing the professional ladder, or writing a mystery novel, you should not stop working for these things. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone -- so get uncomfortable and stay there.
In order to lead a happier and more fulfilled life, you need to stop a lot of behaviors you've grown accustomed to. By following the above tips, you can start removing the negatives from your life while watching the positive make its way in.